>> They shouldn't. Once they have sex with the first person, then they are "married" to the spouse without needing a ceremony.
The bible even supported this. Was there a ceremony for Adam and Abraham?
< What about all the kids younger than 18 who had sex?
>> Then they get married.
< That will cause lots of hardship and bad marriages.
Especially since the kids are very immature.
< STRONG Because by waiting, it creates a heavier bond for the two, so that they can raise kids and have a successful family.
1) since sex requires ONLY 2 partners and is ultimately satisfying to both, it creates an ultimate bond between the two. Having sex with many partners reduces this bond. It's no longer "you are the special person I’ve chosen" but "you're one of them I did it with". Also sex requires the two to be naked, exposing every inch of their bodies to each other. The fact that 2 people undress themselves in front of each other willingly shows their oneness, hence why they need marriage. Doing this without marriage becomes extremely questionable, since they are not even doing something under a strict contract. It’s like two people who do risky business without an explicit strict contract to not share secrets outside of the union. It’s risky behavior and it’s a good reason God prohibits it.
2) After the sex, conceiving a child creates another strong bond. The genetics from both partners come together to form a new one, but retaining the characteristics of the parent genes. There are no other genetics that are added, no outside stranger, hence why marriage should be between 2 people only. Since the child is their very own flesh, they are utterly most responsible to care for it, which we naturally see.
For example, non-drugged parents willingly and repeatedly sacrifices their lives for their children.
However, a mother getting a C-section extenuates this self-sacrifice love for her children because they don’t feel both the incredible pain and joy a mother gets in birth. Here, the mother sleeps peacefully, then wakes up to a strange baby and has to tell remind herself that the baby is hers.
Note: A father who doesn’t care about his children is a fool since he doesn't invest in his legacy.
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< STRONG What's so special about the honey moon and marriage if people have sex before marriage?
Once a couple has sex, what does the couple expect on their honey moon? The same sex? Isn't the first sex better than the sex on the honeymoon? The honeymoon sex would be lame.
< STRONG Pre-marital sex contributes to adultery because:
1) the first bond is weakened in sex with the first partner, esp since you'd have to break up that strong bond in order to get with another woman/man. Also, since the first bond died out so quickly, it's less likely to be any stronger.
2) having sex before an agreement shows how self-controless a person is. The lack of self control contributes to adultery.
Everybody feels how bad adultery is when it happens, especially women. In relationships, if the partner finds out that his/her partner had sex with another person, they’d naturally break up even though they were not married. Why? Because they have deep personal feelings for each other and don't want anyone to interfere.
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